Connect and Express utils
the only more elegant way i came up with is (assuming express is inside your root "node_modules" folder):
require("express/node_modules/connect/lib/utils");
the node installation is on windows, node version 0.8.2
and a bit of extra information:
this way you don't need to know where you are in the path and be forced to use relative paths (./ or ../), this can be done on any file nesting level.
i put all my custom modules inside the root "node_modules" folder (i named my folder "custom_modules") and call them this way at any level of nesting:
require("custom_modules/mymodule/something")