Following my spontaneous thoughts on your case:

Multicore usage

node.js can scale with multiple cores as well. How, you can read for example here (or just think about it: You have one thread/process running on one core, what do you need to use multiple cores? Multiple threads or multiple processes. Push work from main thread to other threads or processes and you are done).

I personally would say it is childish to develop an application, which does not make use of multiple cores. If you make use of some background processes, ok, but if you until now only do work in the node.js main event loop, you should definitely invest some time to make the app scalable over cores.

Implementing something like IPC is not that easy by the way. You can do, but if your case is complicated maybe you are good to go with the cluster module. This is obviously not your favorite, but just because something is called "experimental" it does not mean it's trashy. Just give it a try, maybe you can even fix some bugs of the module on the way. It's most likely better to use some broadly used software for complex problems, than invent a new wheel.

You should also (if you do not already) think about (wise) usage of nextTick functionality. This allows the main event loop to pause some cpu intensive task and perform other work in the meanwhile. You can read about it for example here.

General thoughts on computations

You should definitely take a very close look at your algorithms of the game engine. You already noticed that this is your bottleneck right now and actually computations are the most critical part of mostly every game. Scaling does solve this problem in one way, but scaling introduces other problems. Also you cannot throw "scaling" as problem solver on everything and expect every problem to disappear.

Your best bet is to make your game code elegant and fast. Think about how to solve problems efficiently. If you cannot solve something in Javascript efficiently, but the problem can easily be extracted, why not write a little C component instead? This counts as a separate process as well, which reduces load on your main node.js event loop.

Proxy?

Personally I do not see the advantage of the proxy level right now. You do not seem to expect large amount of users, you therefore won't need to solve problems like CDN solves or whatever... it's okay to think about it, but I would not invest much time there right now.

Technically there is a high chance your webserver software provides proxy functionality anyway. So it is ok to have it on the paper, but I would not plan with dedicated hardware right now.

Epilogue

The rest seems more or less fine to me.

Little late to the game, but take a look here: http://goldfirestudios.com/blog/136/Horizontally-Scaling-Node.js-and-WebSockets-with-Redis

You did not mention anything to do with memory management. As you know, nodejs doesn't share its memory with other processes, so an in-memory database is a must if you want to scale. (Redis, Memcache, etc). You need to setup a publisher & subscriber event on each node to accept incoming requests from redis. This way, you can scale up x nilo amount of servers (infront of your HAProxy) and utilize the data piped from redis.

There is also this node addon: http://blog.varunajayasiri.com/shared-memory-with-nodejs That lets you share memory between processes, but only works under Linux. This will help if you don't want to send data across local processes all the time or have to deal with nodes ipc api.

You can also fork child processes within node for a new v8 isolate to help with expensive cpu bound tasks. For example, players can kill monsters and obtain quite a bit of loot within my action rpg game. I have a child process called LootGenerater, and basically whenever a player kills a monster it sends the game id, mob_id, and user_id to the process via the default IPC api .send. Once the child process receives it, it iterates over the large loot table and manages the items (stores to redis, or whatever) and pipes it back.

This helps free up the event loop greatly, and just one idea I can think of to help you scale. But most importantly you will want to use an in-memory database system and make sure your game code architecture is designed around whatever database system you use. Don't make the mistake I did by now having to re-write everything :)

Hope this helps!

Note: If you do decide to go with Memcache, you will need to utilize another pub/sub system.