what does anon-rss and total-vm mean
As I understand, the size of the virtual memory that a process uses is listed as "total-vm". Part of it is really mapped into the RAM itself (allocated and used). This is "RSS".
Part of the RSS is allocated in real memory blocks (other than mapped into a file or device). This is anonymous memory ("anon-rss") and there is also RSS memory blocks that are mapped into devices and files ("file-rss").
So, if you open a huge file in vim, the file-rss would be high, on the other side, if you malloc() a lot of memory and really use it, your anon-rss would be high also.
On the other side, if you allocate a lot of space (with malloc()), but nevers use it, the total-vm would be higher, but no real memory would be used (due to the memory overcommit), so, the rss values would be low.