What is the optimal size of a UDP packet for maximum throughput?

Alternative answer: be careful to not reinvent the wheel.

TCP is the product of decades of networking experience. There is a reson for every or almost every thing it does. It has several algorithms most people do not think about often (congestion control, retransmission, buffer management, dealing with reordered packets, and so on).

If you start reimplementing all the TCP algorithms, you risk ending up with an (paraphasing Greenspun's Tenth Rule) "ad hoc, informally-specified, bug-ridden, slow implementation of TCP".

If you have not done so yet, it could be a good idea to look at some recent alternatives to TCP/UDP, like SCTP or DCCP. They were designed for niches where neither TCP nor UDP was a good match, precisely to allow people to use an already "debugged" protocol instead of reinventing the wheel for every new application.

The best way to find the ideal datagram size is to do exactly what TCP itself does to find the ideal packet size: Path MTU discovery.

TCP also has a widely used option where both sides tell the other what their MSS (basically, MTU minus headers) is.

The easiest workaround to find mtu in c# is to send udp packets with dontfragment flag set to true. if it throws an exception, try reduce the packet size. do this until there is no exception thrown. you can start with 1500 packet size.