Asynchronous Mysql connector
http://forums.mysql.com/read.php?45,183339,183339enjoy
Updated link to the original article showing how to do async mysql queries:
http://jan.kneschke.de/projects/mysql/async-mysql-queries-with-c-api/
I had a similar problem with a very different technologies: Twisted python (reactor-based IO) and sqlAlchemy (??). While searching for a solution, I found about an sAsync project that simply created a separate thread for sqlAlchemy and then responded to requests.
Given that ASIO is based on low level OS features (such as aio_read() or ReadFileEx() etc) and an OS-level reactor (or proactor, in Windows' case) I don't think you have another chance than emulating the 'asynchronousness' by similar means.
Running a synchronous connector in threads is not an option
Think about it: the libmysqlclient / mysqlclient.dll
you're using makes synchronous socket calls. The OS scheduler will correctly switch to another thread until the I/O is finished, so what's the difference? (apart from the fact that you shouldn't make 2k threads for this..)
Edit: mysql_real_connect() supports an UNIX socket parameter. You can supposedly read yourself from the mysql server port and write to that UNIX socket only using ASIO. Like a proxyfication.
I know this is an old question, but consider looking at the new Boost.Mysql library: https://anarthal.github.io/mysql/index.html