Disadvantages of Object Relational Mapping

An ORM is only a tool. If you don't use it correctly, you'll have bad results.

Nothing stops you from using dedicated HQL/criteria queries, with fetch joins or projections, to return the information that your page must display in as few queries as possible. This will take more or less the same time as dedicated SQL queries.

But of course, if you just get everything by ID and navigate through your objects without realizing how many queries it generates, it will lead to long loading times. The key is to know exactly what the ORM does behind the scene, and decide if it's appropriate or if another strategy must be adopted.

I think you've already identified the major tradeoff associated with ORM software. Every time you add a new layer of abstraction that tries to provide a generalized implementation of something that you used to do by hand there is going to be some loss of performance/efficiency.

As you noted, traversing multiple relationships such as a.b.c.d can be inefficient, because most ORM software will be doing an independent database query for each . along the way. But I'm not sure that means you should eliminate ORM altogether. Most ORM solutions (or at least, certainly Hibernate) allow you to specify custom queries where you can bring back exactly what you want in a single database operation. This should be about as fast as your dedicated SQL.

Really the issue is about understanding how the ORM layer is working behind the scenes, and realizing that while something like a.b.c.d is simple to write, what it causes the ORM layer to do as it is evaluated is not. As a general rule I always go with the simplest possible approach to begin, and then write optimized queries in areas where it makes sense/where it is obvious that the simple approach will not scale.

I'd say, one should use the appropriate tool for different tasks.

E.g., for CRUD operations, ORM frameworks like Hibernate can speed up development and it will perform well enough. Sometimes you need to do some necessary tweaks to achieve acceptable performance. I'm not sure, your task (what took 50 sec with Hibernate) could not be done properly with Hibernate, because you did not provide us with the details.

On the other hand, for example bulk operations involving hundreds of thousands of records is not the type of task you'd expect Hibernate will do without significant performance penalty.